Sunday, September 22, 2013
Exploration 4
The story that effected me the most from "Rebirth" was the one of Nick Chirls. His story hit home for me a in a... different way. Like Nick, I lost my mom, not from death, or the 9/11 attack but from divorce. It will be 2 years in November since my parents separation, and I could take my situation and relate how I felt about the loss of his mom to how I felt about the "loss" of my mom. Most girls grew up really close to their mom, I however was always closer to my dad. I found it really admirable that Nick decided to work on Wall Street like his mother did, and essentially finish what she started and walk in her footsteps. When Nick said it is "absurd" to hate Bin Laden for killing his mom, I took that as it is absurd to hate my mother for tearing my family apart. she had to do what was right for her, and I guess that is ok because she doesn't have to hate her marriage anymore. Nick's dad acted completely ridiculous to the loss of his wife, unlike my dad who stepped up and became the sole provided and care taker for my siblings and me, Nick's dad kicked him out and completely destroyed his relationship with his son until about 7 years later when they met for dinner and began to have each other in their life again. I hope it doesn't take me seven years to forgive my mom for what she did to my family, maybe someday ill fully understand why she divorced my dad, but at the moment it is still hard to accept.
The time lapse structure in this film was effective in showing the grieving process of different victims. I believe this was a strength, it allowed the victims to share their story, and grieve through speaking about what has happened since that day. it allowed each person to grow and become accepting of their loss.
the most important thing I took away from theses stories is to not dwell on the pass, yes it is ok to memorialize someone you loved and loss, but it doesn't help you physically or mentally to put every second of every day into the situation. you have to live for yourself, and make your own life as great as you can because you never know when your time will be up. Even though it took Nick and his father many years to rekindle their relationship, I am confident that the relationship I have with my mother will improve day by day.
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It's good to see that you took something positive away from this and that one of the stories in Rebirth is affecting you like that.
ReplyDeleteIm sorry you had to go through something like that, I definitely know how you feel. Nicks story was very touching and his relationship he had with his mom was very strong which made his loss much more unbearable for him.
ReplyDeleteIts awesome that you made that connection to this and saw it as an opportunity to kind of forgive your mom a little more. I couldn't even imagine losing my mom in anyway so I know it must have been hard for both you and Nick!
ReplyDeleteNicks story definitely showed how the loss of his mother not only affected him, but it changed the dynamic of his family. I can see how you can relate to that, and its great to see his story help you, as was the intent of the film.
ReplyDeleteIt is a good thing to take that kind of point from his story, and maybe it will help you look at things in your circumstances objectively, so perhaps one day you will be able to find a peace as he did.
ReplyDeleteI didn't even think to connect his story of losing his mother to divorce but like you my parents are divorced also. However its my dad I don't talk to or see anymore and my dad left when I was three. It's difficult to go through that and I'm sure it's hard for you being old enough to understand and having that life for so long then suddenly it changes. It gets better though and I hope you can reconnect with your mom someday. I understand it takes time to fully know why or accept what happened. It took my quite a few years and my dad never made it easy on my little sister and I. But it has made me a stronger and better person and i think it will do the same for you. I hope everything works out for you.
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